This explains my use of this word a lot… Even if I didn’t know it
I wish my hair would stop destroying hairbrushes.
Anonymous said: What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?
50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
I’m so happy about this post I could cry. I thought I was in the minority over my horror of this. Maybe I still am. I feel like this is a step backward for women and feminism and not to mention, good literature.
One of the things that annoys me the most about this whole thing is that people are defending these books because “you don’t understand BDSM!” “everyone is so prejudiced about BDSM!” “you’re so closed-minded!”
Uh no. I’m into BDSM. This book? Straight up abuse. She admits that she hates it and is only doing it so he’ll give her affection, all the while seeing his ‘obsession’ with tying women up as some mental illness stemming from his abusive childhood that needs to be cured WITH LOVE.
If people read it as the pulp it is, enjoy it, and then go on with their lives, knowing this is not how real relationships should work? Sure, whatever. Unfortunately, people are taking this shit seriously.
My phone is weird. Its internal dictionary knows the weirdest, most obscure word. It knows more names than I do, and offers them at the most inaccurate places in sentences.
Yet it didn’t know ‘yay’ until I taught it.
It didn’t know yay.
It knows formaldehyde. Dodecahedron. Laparotomy. But not yay.
And I don’t think they’re getting to it in History of Magic. “If you think Voldemort’s evil…this fuckin’ guy.” - Kumail Nanjiani (x)
This has always bothered me. Considering no one gets taught math, imagine how much accountants must get paid?
Also, magical food-creating spells + preservation of mass. Do you need to attune your wand to your fridge so it can pull ingredients for that magical sauce?
Thinking too hard about the Harry Potter world makes my head hurt.
I’m sure anyone knows those questionnaire thingies where there is a statement and you have to fill in how much it applies to you with a number between one and five.
Am I the only one who finds those really difficult? Especially the ones about mental health.
They’re usually not measurable things. For example: “I feel unnecessarily anxious”. How much stress is necessary, or unnecessary for that matter? How anxious do other people get? What situations are acceptable to be anxious in?
Even if I stress out a lot compared to other people, at some point it will become normal to me, and it will start to feel like a baseline amount of stress, but if I fill in that I’m not very anxious, the question has become unusable because compared to the norm I do, I just don’t know what that norm is, and it’s not like I can stick a stress-ometer into my arm to measure my level of anxiety in an objective and definite way.
Even if I decide I’m pretty stressed out, what do I fill in? A three? Is a three average? The sheet says three means ‘regularly’. Do I ‘regularly’ feel stressed out, or is it ‘often’, or even ‘constantly’?
Yes, yes. I know that these questionnaires attempt to measure how much stuff affects the questionee, so it’s all completely subjective ANYWAY. I guess what I’m trying to say is:
"Questionnaires stress me out."
1 2 3 4 5
(Or maybe 4?)
I pretty much had the best dream.
Basically, I was a dragon. I learned to fly, got chased out of town by a mob waving torches and pitchforks, gathered up my fellow dragons and dragon-friendly human pets and set up dragontopia in an uninhabited archipelago.
It’s weird when you wake up and you remember how it feels to fly.